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The Psychology of Attraction: What Really Makes Someone Magnetic

John Edwin
4 min readNov 29, 2024

What makes some people unforgettable, their presence lingering long after they leave? Is it charm? Looks? A mysterious "it factor"? The answer lies in the intriguing science of attraction—a mix of psychology, biology, and behaviors that compel us to connect with others. Let’s unravel the secrets behind what truly makes someone magnetic.

First Impressions: The Science of Snap Judgments

Research shows that within seven seconds of meeting someone, we’ve already formed an impression. These judgments are shaped by visual cues like appearance, posture, and facial expressions, as well as subtle elements like tone of voice and eye contact.

A study by Princeton psychologists Janine Willis and Alexander Todorov found that people judge trustworthiness, competence, and likability in fractions of a second. But here’s the twist: while symmetry and physical attractiveness influence impressions, traits like warmth and openness are often more impactful.

Example:

Imagine meeting two people at a party. One is conventionally attractive but aloof, while the other has a radiant smile and greets you warmly. Chances are, you’ll gravitate toward the second person, proving that first impressions are as much about demeanor…

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John Edwin
John Edwin

Written by John Edwin

Prolific writer, public health specialist, and tech enthusiast with 12 books on Amazon. I craft stories and insights that inspire action and spark conversations

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